Courtesy of the greater dallas council on alcohol & drug abuse — Do’s and Don’ts for the family and friends of a meth addict. This is such great advice; I truly believe that anyone who is affected by meth addiction because of a family member or friend should take this list of do’s and don’ts to heart.
FOR THE FAMILIES AND FRIENDS OF METH AND ADDICTS
… talk to someone who understands drug addiction.
… learn the facts about Meth addiction.
… develop an attitude to match the facts.
… go to Nar-Anon, Al-anon and/or seek professional help.
… learn about yourself, your needs, desires, reactions and behavior patterns.
… maintain a healthy and consistent atmosphere in your home as much as possible.
… take care of your needs and let the addict take care of their needs.
… share your knowledge with others.
… be committed to your own growth, health, and life goals – be constructively self-caring.
… preach and lecture to the addict.
… make excuses for the addict.
… make threats you won’t carry out.
… believe that you are the cause of the other person’s drug addiction.
… suffer for the addict.
… protect the addict from drug situations whether using or in a program of recovery.
… make an issue over the addict’s choice of treatment. Like you, they have the right to choose what they want.
… rescue – let the addict clear up their own mistakes and assume the responsibility for the consequences of their using behavior.
A letter from a child meth addict:
Dear Mom and Dad,
I am a drug abuser. I need help.
Don’t solve my problems for me. This only makes me lose respect for myself.
Don’t lecture, moralize, scold, blame or argue whether I’m stoned. It may make you feel better, but it only makes the situation worse.
Don’t accept my promises. The nature of my illness prevents my keeping them even though I mean them at the time. Promises are only my way of postponing pain.
And don’t keep switching agreements;if an agreement is made, stick to it.
Don’t loose your temper with me. It will destroy you and any possibility of helping me.
Don’t let your anxiety for me make you do what I should do for myself.
Don’t believe everything I tell you. Often I don’t even know the truth let alone tell it.
Don’t cover up or try to spare me the consequences of my using. It may reduce the crisis, but it will make my illness worse.
Above all, don’t run away from reality as I do. Drug dependence, my illness, gets worse as my using continues.
Start now to learn, to understand, to plan for your own recovery. Find Families Anonymous, Nar-Anon, Al-Anon or CoDa; those groups exist to help people in just your situation.
I need help – from a doctor, a psychologist, a counselor, from some people in a self-help program who are in recovery from a drug problem themselves and from a Power greater than myself.